My ex-girlfriend and I were together for 3 years. About 5 months ago we broke up, and now she’s already with someone else (which I must admit does hurt quite a bit). I bought her a lot of jewlery which I also personalized, such as: various necklaces including a Tiffany & Co. necklace with our names and anniversary date engraved, a bracelet with our names engraved, a nice watch, and to top it off…a promise ring with three diamonds. Yes I really loved this girl. I’m really tempted to take it back now that she has a new man, I don’t feel right having her wear them in his presence since they have sentimental value to me. I just don’t want to be a child about it. What do you guys think is right? Should I just let her keep them as a memory of me?
My first thought when I read this was ” WTF what would he do with them?” and then I realized that you could probably either pawn them for money or maybe return them and get your money back!
However, I also realize that it isn’t even about the money or even the jewelery! It’s about the fact that you guys were really serious and then you just broke up and it took her all of 4 seconds to move on to another guy. I think that you’d be okay with her keeping them if you actually felt like she’d taken the time to recover from your relationship ending instead of acting like being together for 3 years wasn’t a big deal.
I totally understand where you are coming from. Keep in mind that you can ask for them back but it doesn’t mean she will give them back. I can see how she would want to keep them because as a girl I can understand the sentimental value of them. However, I can also see how you would want them back as well. Since you poured your heart and your wallet into those gifts.
I think that it’s best to just let it go and let her keep them. It’s not really worth the effort it may take to get them back or the pain it might cause you to talk to her about them or just to her in general.
I don’t know how your relationship ended whether it was a mutual split and ended on somewhat decent terms or if it was a really bad break- up.
Consider the circumstances and the reasons why you ended things as a couple and decide if those circumstances are a good reason for you to feel like you need those gifts back from her. Then if you decide to talk to her about them just approach the situation calmly.
If you ask for anything back I’d say that you should ask for the promise ring! Isn’t that to say that you are kinda engaged but just not officially? I think that’s okay to ask for that back!!!
I mean I think it’s okay to ask for all of it back but if you don’t want to seem to pushy with the whole jewelery issue I’d just ask for the ring back!!!
Just remember what I said- Consider how the relationship ended and go from there in how you pursue this issue!
Good luck! 
August 8th, 2008 at 5:23 am
Giving all those gifts to her were a form of investment. You didn’t get what you wanted. Your lost. Sorry buddy.
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August 8th, 2008 at 5:23 am
well if you have any of the recipts that are in your name saying you purchased them..i would take her to court so you can get them back!..i have been with my man for 4 years and i have the reciept for he PS3 i got him! ALSO if you have them personalized with your guys names on them…her new man isn't gonna be havin that!..i know i wouldnt..im a girl by the way
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August 8th, 2008 at 5:24 am
let her keep them…..im sure her new man won’t appreciate her wearing them in his presence.
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August 8th, 2008 at 5:24 am
You wont do any wrong asking them back as per me. She is already dating another man…but if you see any possibility of you two getting back at any time then its better not to. If not, then just go ahead and ask her to return them.
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August 8th, 2008 at 5:25 am
A gift is a gift, right?
Just ask yourself why you gave it to ther in the firstplace. Was it to make her happy? … Or to get something in return?
I would let her keep the things if she wants to…
But make up your own mind…
Be good!
Caleb
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August 8th, 2008 at 5:26 am
you legally cannot do that
most state laws rule that the ownership of property transfres with the act of giving has occured
you can ask her for then though, but i still wear things my Ex’s gave me and i have a boyfriend and he does not care, diamonds are diamonds.
but really what are you going to do with all of that jewlry, it will just make you sad, and you could never give them to another girl (that would be so messed up)
so you just have to stop thinking about it all
and better yet, really consider it before you give your next girlfriend jewlry
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August 8th, 2008 at 5:28 am
YES
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August 8th, 2008 at 5:30 am
Asking for it back is pretty bad. I wouldn’t. And there is really no reason why she would have to give it back anyway. Gifts are now the property of the receiver. Sorry.
But at least you have all the nice stuff she gave you, right?
Unless she didn’t return the excessive, ostentatious gifting, which might have been a clue where things were headed…
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August 8th, 2008 at 5:31 am
No, you cannot take back gifts.
The only time you can get jewelry back is if you were engaged and she broke the engagement off. Then she is supposed to give you back the ring.
You need to get over this and move on, honey. I’m sorry for your heartache, but don’t be petty. Be the bigger person.
Good luck!
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August 8th, 2008 at 5:32 am
Its better to move on and not get caught up in it. If she has moved on… so should you. By getting tied up to things like this, taking jewlery back etc, your hurting yourself even more. You need to move on and not look back.
If she wants to wear your gifts around her new man, then let her. It is her disrespectful-foolishly behaviour. Don’t worry about it.
3 year relationship is long… but there are plenty of fish in the sea.
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August 8th, 2008 at 5:32 am
I understand it must be very hard for you, however you should let her decide what she wants to do with them. In fact, I think that she should be the one to give them back to you, and maybe ask you if she can keep something as a memory of you. But you cannot decide for her.
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August 8th, 2008 at 5:32 am
let her keep them do u really wanna remember the cow?
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August 8th, 2008 at 5:32 am
If you happened to end on “somewhat” level ground and still talk, why not ask her about it? Tell her how you feel and how sentimental some pieces are and that they mark “YOUR” relationship and you’d like to keep something marking that since they can’t be returned anyway. She may rethink what’s happened and a) come back after a short period of sinking in knowing how you really feel or b) give back some, if not all of the pieces.
It’s hard to tell, not knowing what type of person she is, but 3 years is a good long while for any relationship these days. Something held you together besides jewelry, right? Good luck.
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August 8th, 2008 at 5:32 am
They were gifts. They are not yours to ask for back.
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August 8th, 2008 at 5:33 am
legaly their hers you cant do that
but you can talk to her about it in a mature way, it migth be she will be relived to get them off her hands
have a friend who dont know what to do with gifts from past, she dont feel rigth using them and contemplating giving them away
just explain cost a lot of money and your in thigth spot or something…but all depend on the girl, legaly its hers
personaly i’d want to return it as wouldnt feel rigth to keep em…but really depend on girl, cant take her to court or anyting, be nice about it and migth get it back..migth not, all depend on the girl
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August 8th, 2008 at 5:33 am
up to you. if you could use it then yeah take it back. but if not then forget it. i mean what would you do with it anyways? only take it if she was really a B!tch
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August 8th, 2008 at 5:35 am
My first thought when I read this was ” WTF what would he do with them?” and then I realized that you could probably either pawn them for money or maybe return them and get your money back!
However, I also realize that it isn’t even about the money or even the jewelery! It’s about the fact that you guys were really serious and then you just broke up and it took her all of 4 seconds to move on to another guy. I think that you’d be okay with her keeping them if you actually felt like she’d taken the time to recover from your relationship ending instead of acting like being together for 3 years wasn’t a big deal.
I totally understand where you are coming from. Keep in mind that you can ask for them back but it doesn’t mean she will give them back. I can see how she would want to keep them because as a girl I can understand the sentimental value of them. However, I can also see how you would want them back as well. Since you poured your heart and your wallet into those gifts.
I think that it’s best to just let it go and let her keep them. It’s not really worth the effort it may take to get them back or the pain it might cause you to talk to her about them or just to her in general.
I don’t know how your relationship ended whether it was a mutual split and ended on somewhat decent terms or if it was a really bad break- up.
Consider the circumstances and the reasons why you ended things as a couple and decide if those circumstances are a good reason for you to feel like you need those gifts back from her. Then if you decide to talk to her about them just approach the situation calmly.
If you ask for anything back I’d say that you should ask for the promise ring! Isn’t that to say that you are kinda engaged but just not officially? I think that’s okay to ask for that back!!!
I mean I think it’s okay to ask for all of it back but if you don’t want to seem to pushy with the whole jewelery issue I’d just ask for the ring back!!!
Just remember what I said- Consider how the relationship ended and go from there in how you pursue this issue!
Good luck!
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August 8th, 2008 at 5:37 am
Let it be… is ok, maybe she can change her mind because she saw the beautiful jewelries :p also to show how faithful you are……
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August 8th, 2008 at 5:53 am
they were gifts. the only thing that you might be able to justify is the promise rings if she broke it off with you because its almost like an engagement ring. and she could keep it with the intent to be engaged, but since that didn’t happen, it could be returned to you.
personally though, i’d say it might be best to move on and forget about the gifts. it could cause more of a problem to get the ring back then you want.
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